Understanding your Spouse

“Think over what I say, for the Lord will give you understanding in everything.”

2 Timothy 2:7

Understanding your spouse is a responsibility that each person needs to consider.  The guys are probably reading this and thinking it is impossible!  I am here to let you know – guys it is not impossible – and it is something all couples should strive to do on a continual basis. 

To understand one another takes time as well as careful attention to detail.  It is not something you can do overnight or by taking a few moments to listen to your spouse.  It is an action that is always ongoing.  It is an action that requires honest communication from each other.  It is an action that reaps great benefits when acted upon!

When couples choose not to understand one another they run the risk of trying to make their spouse be someone they are not.  Psalm 139:14 states, “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made…”  God made each and everyone of us unique.  The key is to work to understand how God made your spouse.  What gifts and talents did God give your spouse to use in His kingdom?  What makes your spouse tick?  What is the best way to support your spouse?  How does you spouse want to be loved?  The questions are endless or should I say a lifetime!  It is an opportunity to discover the treasure you have within your spouse!

2 Timothy 2:7 points out that the Lord will give you understanding in everything.  To gain understanding is to have a relationship with the Lord.  In fact, in Hebrews 4:15-16 it notes, “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin.  Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.”  Our Lord understands us fully.  He understands our spouse fully.  We need to lean on Him for the wisdom to understand our spouses as fully as we can.

Continue to “discover” your spouse!  Continue to understand them and as you do you will reap a solid relationship!

Cheryl