Leadership in Marriage?

“Lead me in Your truth and teach me, for You are the God of my salvation.”

Psalm 25:5

Leadership is an interesting topic no matter what aspect one is looking at; but considering leadership in marriage can bring about a twinge of negativism in people.  Noting that, ponder a couple of aspects of leadership with me.  Christ is leading us in His truth and the question before us is Christ the leader of our life?  Is Christ the leader of our marriage?  Those are some pretty convicting questions to ponder but let’s unpack those questions.  Life is busy!  There are jobs, commutes, volunteer opportunities, spending time with each other, kids’ activities if kids are in the mix, houses to maintain, yards to keep up, and the list goes on.  In all of those things, there are many decisions that have to be made.  Do we ask Christ to lead us in the direction we are to go or do we just go about our day leading our own life?

Psalm 31:3 notes, “Since you are my rock and my fortress, for the sake of your name lead me and guide me.”  Christ is our rock, He is our refuge, He is our strength, He is our comfort, He is our peace; therefore, He should be our leader.  It is easy to let life take over and run on auto-pilot.  Don’t let that be the case in your life and marriage!  Let Christ be your leader!

The other aspect of leadership to consider is the leadership role in the house.  There are a couple of more questions that need to be pondered.  Husbands are you leading the home?  Wives are you letting the husbands lead?  Ephesians 5:22-23 –“Wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of wife, as Christ is the head of the church.”  Ladies…God designed the home to be led by the husband and we are not to take away that leadership from our husbands. Gentlemen…It goes on to say in Ephesians, “Husbands love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.  In this same way husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.  He who loves his wife loves himself.”

Husbands are you leading your family in a way that Christ lead and loved the church?  Does your wife know she is the most important and beautiful woman on this earth?  Do you lead and teach your wife and family the words of our Lord?  Do you pray and ask for the Lord’s guidance in all the decisions that need to be made in the house?

Leadership is an element that takes a great deal of courage and guidance!  Turn to Christ and let Him be your leader.  With Christ as your leader husbands you will see where He is asking you to lead.  Wives you will see how being supportive of your husband’s leadership will bring the two of you together as Christ intended. 

Cheryl